So often our questions to our mothers revolve around ourselves. "So, enough about me; what do you think about me?" It's natural to be curious about our own childhood and upbringing from her perspective. But how much do you really know about who she was as a person before you knew her? What are her deepest thoughts and feelings?
My mom (above), Doris Armstrong, died of ovarian cancer nearly 24 years ago, and I still miss her. She would have been 83 years old this month (the thought of which, I'm sure, would have horrified her!) I wish I had asked her these questions. But it's not too late to ask my beautiful stepmom, who has been a great friend and support to me for twenty years. (So, Cec, be warned--on our next visit it's your turn to be interviewed!)
Just in time for Mother's Day, here are some interesting questions that may help you get to the heart of the most important woman in your life.
- What have you changed your mind about since you were young?
- What did you miss out on in life?
- What was your biggest fear as you came into adulthood?
- What is your purpose for being here?
- In what ways is your life different than you imagined it would be?
- Did you ever feel marginalized, being a woman?
- What did you really think about Dad the first time you met him?
- Who was your greatest influence and why?
- What is the dumbest thing you ever did?
- What has been the most exciting time of your life?
- What talent do you wish you had that has eluded you?
- What gives you the most joy?
There you have it. Go start some interesting conversation with your mom. And don't forget the flowers.